It must be terrifying to be acutely aware of all of the bad things that might happen to us. If you wake up in the morning and head to work, there are probably hundreds of potentially harmful situations that we don't even think twice about. Unless of course you suffer from anxiety. We are all anxious at times, and there are situations which are inherently anxiety provoking, such as giving a speech, going to the dentist, job interviews, breakups etc. You might even have some that other people don't. That's ok, we all do. Although if you are amongst the group of people who suffer from anxiety on a daily basis, it can be horribly debilitating. On top of that, often unless someone tells you about it, you might not even know about it, so there may be people wandering about who are struggling through everyday, and you might even be one of them.
Why do we get anxious?
Well, the cliff notes version is that it keeps us alive. Without anxiety we wouldn't get anything done, wouldn't evolve and would walk ourselves into all kind of danger. If we didn't have these skills, the lions, tigers and bears (oh my!) that were running around in our ancestors past wouldn't have had much of a challenge. Our anxiety keeps us safe, the problem is that in our worlds right now there isn't a whole lot of things chasing us and eating us. But there are lots of other threats, generally fueled by our thoughts and perceptions. To keep us aware of these things, our brains are pretty good at sizing up threat and working out what to do with it.
Thanks for the history lesson, however I am still anxious...
First up, you will never get rid of your anxiety completely. No one does. Anxiety is very purposeful, and so getting rid of it would be unhelpful, but if you have lots of it, it's about scaling it down so it feels manageable. There are lots of schools of thought about how to manage your anxiety, and you can read about some of them by googling CBTor ACT. If you find a model that makes sense for you, it helps to find a therapist who works in that model and you are both on the same page.
Another helpful strategy, and the most effective if you are having panic attacks, is to use your breathing. When you become anxious, your breathing becomes fast and shallow (you may not notice) and tells your brain to get ready to escape or get ready to deal with whatever the problem is. If you slow your breathing down, you can tell your brain that you are ok, and it will reduce those anxious feelings.
I can guarantee that if you wait until you feel really anxious to try the breathing strategy, it won't work! You need to practice when you are feeling calm! There are whole bunch of exercises out there, but the one that I like is 6 second breathing, breath in for 3 seconds and then out for 3 seconds. Do this as many times as you like, but usually for at least 10 cycles (1min!).
It's hard to manage anxiety on your own, particularly if it's really bad and eating up a lot of your mind space. If this sounds like you, then I recommend getting some professional support.
Anyone have any strategies that work really well they would like to share?